What could be done to resolve constant fear of change?

Hello doctor,

I am forgetting what I read a week before. The brain does not listen if other person speaks, or anything that requires moderate attention like a difficult lesson or an English movie or very new issues and tries to skip it. Due to this problem, I need to read the books, again and again, to get familiar to talk in public or practice it. Even if I practice many times, after some weeks, I cannot recollect what I read exactly. Due to this problem, I am unable to crack PG entrance. I feel ashamed. Even though I am a student of English medium, I fear to talk and search for words while talking. I tried to learn good fluent English, but I am unsuccessful. Is this dyslexia with combined neurasthenia too? I used to score 95 % but after this problem started, I am just able to stick to 60 % and I am unable to digest very low academic growth. There seems to be no treatment in allopathy for this.

I feel back muscles ache and when I do some physical work, I feel full body ache. Even without any work, I feel back muscles ache. I sleep more. I am able to work more at night times than early in the morning. I wake up at around 8 to 8.30 AM whether I sleep at 9:00 PM or 2:00 AM. I try a lot. One should be able to wake up after six to eight hours of sleep and feel satisfied, but for me, it is not true. My polysomnogram was normal. More the mental work, I sleep more. For example, if I study for a few hours, I may need to sleep for 12 to 16 hours.

While studying, I go to sleep. But while doing other works, I do not sleep automatically. Due to sleep, I have lesser time than others. In this time, I am facing difficulty to manage myself, wife, home, job, next level studies, business issues, outside problems, etc. I am very easily tired with mental work than physical work.

I am ruled out for depression as my problems or most of the symptoms are starting only if I start reading (memory) or physical activity. Else, I feel somewhat alright. I got these three problems when I was 18 years old and these symptoms were not given attention by my parents. Later, I went to hospitals but no proper treatment was given and I am trying to cope with them. But these dominate my self-confidence regularly.

I have taken just one dose of Lycopodium 200, Baryta Carbonica 200 with one week gap. After taking Baryta, I have some discomfort and hence stopped. I tried Kaliphos few years ago and felt the symptoms aggravated and stopped using it. I have shown to doctors (psychiatry also) and they are unable to come to a specific diagnosis and said I am normal. My hemogram, CT, MRI, thyroid profile, and polysomnogram are normal. No alcohol or smoking or any other habits.

Below, I am mentioning a summary of my mind and behavior to conclude what type of homeopathy medication personality I am:

• I fear to take change. For example, if I am doing a job, when any better job opportunity comes by, I fear to apply for change or travel. Hence, I am losing ways to improve in my field.
• I fear to talk in public.
• I fear when I see from the second or third floor of the building to down.
• I fear to tell lies. Many people easily tell lies and survive. For me even if it is mandatory, I feel difficult to lie.
• I am afraid of money matters. I will leave my money due to modest/bashful/hesitation problem. In this way, I am losing money.
• I cannot defend myself even though I know I am correct or right. I cannot convince others to accept what and why I did something. I just stand silently before them as if I did a mistake.
• I cannot convey properly what is in my mind and it comes out in a different way. Hence, even if I do better work than others, I am not focused enough to sell the idea.
• I hide my sad feelings inside.
• I cannot praise myself in front of others even if I did a good job where many people praise themselves even for a small work.
• Tears come while watching sentimental scenes in TV shows or movies. But I do not cry in real life easily. May be in childhood I cried, and later learned not to cry.
• I think more about other's feelings and care about them. I compromise myself. If my wife asks me for a huge sum of money, I give the money, even if I do not want to. But, when it comes spending even a small amount on myself I just let go even if it is something important.
• I change easily to other's feelings or moods or other's mentality. I lose my identity in the process sometimes and think later that I am changing and try to come back.
• I feel that I am having a struggle with my mind to keep it in track. An example is, I trained my mind not to eat rice (carbs) at night times. But, if I see people eating at night, I start eating (I adoptto their behavior).
• I am not rigid with my character or feelings.
• I think about money, but when I get money, I feel I do not care about it. This might make some people around me feel that I am stingy and a miser but the fact is I am not.
• People think differently and talk outside as if everything is normal. I tried to follow it but I am unsuccessful. Because to please somebody or to be happy, one should pretend or change to talking situations.
• Also, I put on weight easily. I stopped eating rice at night times. Just eating half of what other people eat for my age. My father is obese and may be I got those genes. Due to strict food control, I now weigh 68 kg which is near normal to my height.
• I cannot utilize the situation due to my above-mentioned symptoms like fear of change, afraid in money matters, cannot defend, convey my message well, etc.
• I sweat more. I feel intolerant to heat. I cannot sleep without a blanket.
• I feel irritable if work does not happen in time. I get normal if someone consoles me (with jokes) or by myself after some time. But never fire easily on others. I hide my true self.
• I do not get headache, vomiting or have indigestion problem.
• I might be polite if in someone's mind I am less than them. But when I reach to the feeling of a good person in their mind, I try to not be polite or good but will be polite only but think that way.
• I curse myself if somebody undergoes some suffering due to my mistakes. I have gone to that road (accident situation) or been late, etc. If someone accidentally hits my bike, I am afraid to ask them why they came in the wrong direction and ask for compensation.
• I am not interested to go outside for evening walks. No strong feelings for a particular activity. I do for a few days and stop. Not maintaining daily habit.
• I am a workaholic and I do not like postponing. I get angry if someone postpones the work.
• I have some child-like mentality. Helping nature.
• In my feeling revenge on any issue/problem is to give answer with success. But due to these above behavioral problems and symptoms, I am having low academic, personal, professional and social functioning.

I strongly believe that homeopathy can treat mental and emotional symptoms better than any medicine and hence I mentioned the three symptoms due to which I am unable to lead a peaceful life. According to my mentality, what medicines suit me? According to my disease/symptoms, what medicines will help? Kindly help me out.

Hi doctor,

Good morning. I have taken two doses each of 10 pills of Gelsimium sir. I have read that medicines characters fit me. But I do not see any improvement. Sleep pattern, fear factors, mental and physical easy fatiguability problems remain the same. Kindly help me what shall I do?

Hi doctor,

Thank you for the reply.

I have used three doses of Gelsemium, and I will use Anacardium 1 M liquid as I have bought the pills. Is liquid more harmful than pills?

1. Recently, hair loss has been there for the last four months, and I am planning to use hair oil prescribed by a skin specialist. My paternal and maternal parents do not have bald heads, and I am so sad that my hair started balding after 30 years.

2. Also, the memory problem is not gone. Not able to recall and repeat it after some time.

3. Regarding muscle weakness, feeling fear of myalgia for sexual work. Hence losing interest. Please give me a solution.

Hi,

Welcome back to icliniq.com.

I understand your concern.

What kind of business did you lose your money in? Real estate as a partner. I lost my money to a trusted person. I fear collecting my money back because I do not want to raise my voice. I want medicine to be brave and strong mentally. Due to think you may get hair loss due to stress and anxiety? Hairfall stopped as I am using your Staph and hair oil, biotin. How many days do I need to use Staph? Is it not required again to use Gelsemium and Anacardium? Regarding memory issues.

I try to remember local, personal, and daily issues much more than studying books and documenting them. As I am unable to recollect daily activities, causing more loss of money and giving a chance for others to play with me, and they tell a lie n after a week as they know or observe me that I will have less recollection after a week. I am newly married and feel exhausted from sex. No problem with erection and ejaculation. But no strong desire to have sex. I can adjust for a month without having sex. What medicine is there to carve it? I have a problem waking up early. I feel tired or have difficulty waking up or opening my eyes at morning 8 am too. My eyes feel exhausted and weak (even though I have six to eight hours of sleep), so I can not work with activeness if my eyes start to feel exhausted.

Hi doctor,

Thank you for the reply.

1. No decrease in fear. Please help me with that as I plan to recover money from that guy. Due to a lack of guts and courage, I am holding that work. The first and most significant problem is getting out of fear which is coming for no reason. Please prescribe me medicine. Also, when thinking of that money issue, I get anxious. I am not a terrorist or any wrongdoing; I wonder why I fear.

2. Also, please help me more with normal sexual desire.

3. I eat less, and I gain weight quickly. More facial and abdominal fat. Overall weight is 69 kg. Hoping to decrease 7 to 8 kg. I stopped eating at night at the age of 30 and was unable to enjoy the food I liked. I am still using Staph. Shall I stop or continue it? I have taken Argentina nitricum, but no change in symptoms.

What about Gelsemium and Anacardium?

Hi,

Welcome back to icliniq.com.

I understand your concern.

1. I have taken Ignatia and feel confident. I have been able to ask the person who cheated on me. I completely believed in him, and he said to show me proofs I did not have as he planned well how to cheat me for the last seven years. He played mind games and does not allow to talk with other partners n played the highest level of mind games. Apart from that, now I can question people if they do wrong. Before days I feel low and shy. Last time before using the medicine, I am not courageous. I think memory improved from routine activities. But the problem is I have aggression, which might lead to a distance between my wife and me because she argues for silly reasons. The aggression outside cheaters is ok, but in the home, not necessary always. Compared to the side effect, I feel happy with this medicine. Did it work like a placebo? Anyhow, If I wanted to use this medicine for years. Is that ok?

2. Regarding sexual life with my partner, I have only twice in the last 14 days. I feel that she wants to have alternate days, but I cannot give such a quantity. She does not ask, but I need to understand. Also, I have missed meds two days in the last eight days. Either change meds or dose increase, or does it takes time?

3. Regarding early morning wakeup, whenever I was sleeping in my home in the morning, my eyes became sticky, and I felt unable to wake up. After a full face wash or bath, it feels fine. When I used to stay outside and sleep in the morning, I did not have sticky eyes and felt better to wakeup in the morning. Why this difference? Even after sleeping for 8 hours, why is my mind asking for more sleep? And what to do to decrease the time for rest as I am missing daily work. I am having a sound sleep at night. I do not wake up in the middle, but I still mind asking for more time to sleep: best remedy or home med for this sleep problem.

4. Also, kindly rethink the memory problem and why I was going to sleep unknowingly after reading for some hours, which made me fear reading. I want to pursue PG (which is a long-term goal).

5. Also, I have muscle aches or myalgia; hence I feel weak and do not work well in my job. Like with headaches, people do not concentrate well on that pain.

6. My belly is coming in front. No thyroid. I stopped eating at night and decreased in the morning and afternoon too, whereas my housemates and colleagues are double me, night food and not gaining weight. I am worried a lot and stopped eating what I like at the age of 30 years itself. Sometimes I feel what is the use to earn if I cannot eat what I love. I can also observe my belly if I eat ice cream weekly. I love to look smart, so I used to miss many food items. Any metabolic problem for easy weight gain? Can any remedy for the above problems combinedly decrease weight instead of separate medicine for weight gain? Daily I fought my problems, and the main force or motivation was my self-confidence. But I need your support and understanding of my case, and please do very needful. I wanted to be more beneficial to my family and society. I have my goals. When I am entirely or majorly out of the above complaints, I can work and concentrate well on my career and become a better citizen.

Hi doctor,

Thank you for the reply.

I am using Ignatia 1M once per 2 days. The pills are tiny. Do I need to have a somewhat bigger size? Regarding being brave, I need to get boosted more. I am not fully satisfied. My mind and body feel dull once weekly for an unknown cause (financial, business cheating, or personal). If I sleep for 1 to 2 days, I feel better. During that two days of low mood, I could not tackle any important issue. What to do at that emergency time? I want continuous everyday living and not on and off. In that off time, people who know me can take advantage. Please help me. Yesterday when studying, I got to sleep again. Felt very sad. I do not know the reason for getting sleep for the last ten years. Regarding sexual life, the initial days of Damiana usage give a good feel, and later the effect is decreased. Does a dosage increase needed? Also, keep in mind my regular old complaints.