Is loss of sexual urge common during no porn streaks at 19?

Question

Hello doctor,

I am 20 years old, and I have been watching porn for almost six years and masturbating for almost 11 to 12 years. Last year I had a streak of 140 days with porn but no masturbation. Then I broke it. After that I started masturbating again and then again I had a streak of six months without any kind of porn and masturbation.

Today, my 50 plus days streak without porn and masturbation comes to an end and I want serious help. My biggest concern is that whenever I want, like three weeks plus, in a streak. I no longer have sexual desires. I hate to talk about sex but if I get a glimpse of porn then it will end up with masturbation.

I really lost all my sexual urges and feelings of wanting to have sex during this streak time. How can I cure full sexual desires and morning wood?

Please help.

Answer 1

Hello,

Welcome to icliniq.com.

I understand your concern.

What you are describing is actually quite common for people who try to quit porn and masturbation for long streaks. Here is what is likely going on and some ways to help:

What might be happening?

Porn-induced desensitization: Your brain has gotten used to the high stimulation from porn. When you stop, sexual desire can temporarily dip because your brain is “retraining” itself to respond to normal, real-life stimuli.
Psychological fatigue or stress: Long streaks without releasing sexual tension can sometimes cause sexual desire to fade temporarily, or make you avoid thinking about sex because it feels overwhelming or confusing.
Anxiety or guilt: Feeling pressure to maintain a streak or fear of relapse can lower sexual desire or cause performance anxiety.

Tips to regain natural sexual desire and morning mood:

Be patient: It can take weeks or even a few months for your brain’s dopamine system to reset and for normal sexual desire to come back.
Avoid triggers: Stay away from porn or any sexual content that triggers the urge to relapse.
Focus on overall health: Exercise regularly as it boosts testosterone and mood, eat a balanced diet, and get good sleep, as poor sleep can kill libido.
Practice mindful masturbation if you choose: Masturbation itself is not harmful, it is the porn that is usually the problem. Mindful masturbation (focusing on your own physical sensations without porn) can help restore a healthy sexual response.
Manage anxiety and stress: Meditation, deep breathing, or talking to a counselor can help reduce mental blocks around sex.
Limit pressure: Do not obsess over “performance” or “desire” during streaks; accept that fluctuations are normal.

When to see a doctor or counselor?

If your lack of desire or erectile problems last more than a few months.
If you have mood issues like depression or anxiety interfering with your life.
If you want professional guidance for quitting porn addiction or sexual dysfunction.

I hope this has helped you.

Please feel free to reach out to me again if you have further queries.

Thank you.